Why Your Tinder Profile Should Stand Out (It’s Quite Easy)

Often, when I point out what guys could improve in their Tinder profiles I’m faced up with a statements along lines of:

• “That seems like a lot of work”
• “Isn’t there a shortcut? Would a good selfie work?”
• “I don’t actually know if I’m ready to take big steps to improve myself”

And those are common responses. After all, it can be a lot of work if you take Tinder and dating seriously.

But there are also reasons why Tinder can be really hard as a guy if we don’t put in the effort. Let’s dive into it.

Girls’ Point of View

If you’ve seen girls’ Tinder, this won’t be anything new. But for those who’ve never seen girl’s Tinder, this is for you.

Guys tend swipe right a lot of the time. Why? Because we want to maximize the chances of matching with girls. And still we get really few matches out of all likes we give.

But for girls, this is totally different. Any guy they see on their feed, it’s a match in 99 cases out of 100.

So they can be really picky, and they really are. They might swipe right maybe 1-5 profiles out of hundred. Still they can easily end up with hundreds of matches, even more than thousand matches, easily.

Sound too alien? But that’s reality for girls.

The first time I saw it, it felt absurd how fast they swipe left. And they still can get more matches in 5 minutes than it takes for guys with good profiles to get in months. They can afford to be picky.

And here is important to remember. Online dating apps like Tinder are flooded with men. The ratio can be at best roughly 50:50, but at worst something like 1 girl to 10 guys.

That’s why your profile should stand out to first be swiped right and then not be drowned by the hundreds of conversations from other matches.

It’s not actually that hard to stand out

In reality, even the top profile guys on Tinder are quite average in real life. They just portray their life in a way that gets a positive reaction or creates an attraction.

For more average guys, their profile causes no reaction at all. Even if they might be decent looking or a really cool guy to hang out with, their profile doesn’t do them justice.

For some, e.g. who have ripped abs or otherwise get lucky, they can get swiped right even if they don’t put in effort. Tinder is a threshold game after all.

But, for example, I haven’t been lucky at all with my Tinder. A (dirty mirror) selfie nets me exactly zero matches. Been there, tried that, didn’t work. And for majority of guys, I know they get the exact same results.

After reviewing hundreds of profiles on Reddit, the reason 95-99% of profiles get swiped left isn’t really because of the guy at all. He might be decently attractive even, but too often his photos get him swiped left.

Here’s what an average guy’s profile on Tinder is roughly:

• Selfies, typically in gym or toilet because those are the only places where guys have large mirrors
• Low light i.e. it’s hard to see the guy
• Zoomed in from another photo, because guys don’t take that many photos
• Friends / group shot where the guy is hidden behind others

When 90%+ of profiles are a mix of these, it’s not actually that hard to stand out.

If you want the 80% of the results with 20% of the effort, just taking pictures with a better framing and in a better lighting. Even with just that, you’d be slightly above the average.

But in my experience, the more you stand out, the easier getting matches and dates from Tinder becomes.

More specifically, the more you want to meet specific type of girls, say for more casual relationships or BDSM, the more you need to stand out. I’ve written my guide down on what has worked for me, because I want girls from a much smaller pool. Thus putting in more effort has resulted in more dates i.e. it has been worth it.

So, if you want to choose how you date and strive for more, then I have the tools for you. This series is written to help you learn where to focus your efforts for maximal impact on your Tinder results.

The first stop, learning fundamentals of style to increase your attractiveness.

Takeaways

• Girls can get hundreds of matches in minutes, because 99% of right swipes will be a match. Thus they can afford to be picky.
• An average guy’s profile is so bad, that it’s actually really easy to stand out.
• 80% of results with 20% effort – take pictures with a better framing and in better lighting
• For learning how to maximize your Tinder profile – start with learning fundamentals of style to increase your attractiveness