Why Dressing Stylish For Work And For Dating Differ

I recently had a chat about style and specifically whether certain clothes are a good fit for dating, because they already were a good fit for work.

This spiraled into discussion how style is seen as fairly one dimensional manner, either your style is on point or it’s not, while in reality it’s more nuanced than that.

However, with nuance I don’t mean that style is especially hard to learn rather there’s advice specific to a context which shouldn’t be applied as an answer to style questions in all contexts.

In particular, you can be stylish for work and still have wrong style for dating.

But why isn’t dressing stylish for work and for dating inclusive of each other? You’re still stylish right?

Understanding style goals helps differentiate work and dating style

For work especially in corporate environments, the goal is to show you as a smart, influential person that is worth listening to and doing business with.

However at the same time, men’s fashion for work is fairly limited and way too similar.

Ever looked at a photograph of a fancy event where dress code is black suit and all men are essentially indistinguishable? 🤵‍♂️🤵‍♂️🤵‍♂️

Or taken a look how similar everyone is at your workplace? Would you say that anyone at work looks like they get laid a lot? Yeah, dressing stylish for work purposefully aims to make you conform to a norm to appear credible.

On the other hand, dressing for style has two goals: making you look as hot as possible and stand out from the crowd.

First goal aims to showcase your body that you worked for and have a polarizing reaction of “☑️ fuck yes, I’d tap that” or a clear “❌ no” instead of “I don’t know”.

The second aims to make you known to potentially interested girls, both in person as well as on Tinder. Girls need to stop to take another look at you before they can consider whether they’d date you.

To underline it even more, most people are bland especially with their style thus they don’t stand out from the crowd at all.

When you do dress to stand out, you really do stand out from the crowd thus increasing the attention you gather. And this is a good thing, higher the amount of girls that stop to take another look at you, higher your chances are that girls that would enjoy your company also stop to take a look.

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Now you hopefully see the conflict with these goals for style and thus why they differ. When dating, you don’t want to blend into the crowd but instead want as many girls as possible to stop to take a second look. The more girls notice you, the more likely you are to have a polarizing “fuck yes” from interesting ones.

Therefore, if you want to achieve success on Tinder and dating in general, you need to put effort into dressing stylish with goals congruent to dating.