AuthorKorkki

Hey there! I'm blogging about topics related to self-development that I've had struggles with in the past.

No-bullshit, dead simple weight control method

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Failing so many diets. All of them requiring jumping through so many hoops. All of it just to yoyo back to your original weight, because potato chips, ice cream, and pizza are just so delicious. I’ve seen enough of fancy diets and none of them got me the lasting result of a lean body that I wanted. Few reasons why I dropped them; Too restrictive that I snacked my way out of my lost kilos...

Why do I feel so conflicted with catching feelings

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There’s something different about hanging out with her. It’s so much more fun even if it’s not that different from others I’m dating. That’s called catching feelings, you know. It’s been such along time since the last time. Really, catching feelings? Huh. Yeah, a bit over six years. I hope she likes me back too. Tho she says her life situation isn’t the...

My body and uncertainty whether I’m hot

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Oh daaaaamn, Christian Grey in 50 Shades of Grey trilogy is so freaking hot. I know, right! Not Henry Cavill, but not that far off. I wish I had that kind of well-defined muscular body instead of being this fat blob. Okay, I’ll stop you right there. You know that you’re already fit and girls see you as hot, right? Well, yeah, but I still have so much to go. I don’t really have...

On craving a relationship and hyperindependence

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I crave to be in a relationship. What makes you crave that? Are you sure that is what you are really missing, not something else? What do you mean with that? Of course I want to be with someone. I want to share things I enjoy and also find pleasure in things they like. So I can give to their life as well as get more in my life. And that’s the reason why you’ve pulled away when they...

Letter to 20yo Overachiever Past Me From Me After Burnout

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“I’m so dead”. “I’m so tired already when I wake up”. You’ve heard “Shouldn’t you just rest if it affects you that badly?” so often you already anticipate it. It just feels like mockery even if probably isn’t. Deep down you know that resting isn’t the solution to the problem, but you don’t know why it wouldn’t...

Why Dressing Stylish For Work And For Dating Differ

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I recently had a chat about style and specifically whether certain clothes are a good fit for dating, because they already were a good fit for work. This spiraled into discussion how style is seen as fairly one dimensional manner, either your style is on point or it’s not, while in reality it’s more nuanced than that. However, with nuance I don’t mean that style is especially...

Fundamentals to Improving Tinder Profile

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Frustrated when getting zero matches with the girls that are up to your standards, or they just ignore your messages even if you miraculously match with them? You’ve heard that top performers on Tinder get matches left and right and you realize that your profile is bad, but no one is clear on what is needed to get become a top performer on Tinder. Some suggest two rules of be attractive and...

Tens of photoshoots are not yielding Tinder results

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Does it feel you’ve done tens of rounds of photos with no significant changes to your Tinder results in terms of matches or dates? A photoshoot here, requesting a friend to snap a photo there, and to finish it off, photoshoot on a holiday. And in the end, nothing happens. You feel that you’re taking a lot of pictures, probably more than most people that do well. Friends and the...